Couples work is similar to dancing. In the beginning, the goal is to understand and meet individuals where they are at in the moment. Creating a safe environment is key to helping the couple learn skills, discover unmet needs, and overcome challenges. I use basic Emotional Focused Therapy to help the clients discover the current and desired dance. When couples understand the parts of their (current) dance that keeps tripping them up, they can begin trying new moves to create a new, more harmonious one. The new dance becomes one the couple can enjoy and likely choose to engage in more often that the old, awkward one.
“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.”
― Michael Jordan
“We can never find peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”
― Dalai Lama